“What part of this is also true for me?”
I appreciated this question, posed in a workshop that I recently attended.
Rather than jump to ‘do I agree or disagree?’ Or ‘is this right or wrong?,’ an invitation to ponder instead what part - even if a tiny one - in what’s being said, shared, or expressed, might also be true for me?
We can use this in work contexts, in relationships, in meetings, and in heated (or not so heated) conversations to step out of a place of judgment and into a place of curiosity and exploration. It fascinates me to imagine what might be possible if some of our current leaders tried this question on for size, as well.
A few questions you might experiment with include:
What part of this is also true for me?
Even if I disagree, what is the truth that I might be able to see in this?
What is the small part of this that resonantes for me?
How can I step out of my own perspective in order to really see and hear what’s being said?
If I step out of my own position, where are the areas where we’re actually aligned?