It can be easy to look at things from the perspective of "or:"
"I can either do work I love, or make a lot of money."
"I can either be nice, or I can speak my mind."
"I can either please my boss, or I can do what I think is right."
"I can spend time with my family, or I can take time for me."
"I can either stay at my job, or I can quit."
Very rarely is the real answer "or." Often, it's "both," and even more often, "both" is only the beginning, as there are far more options than initially meet the eye.
The magic starts to happen when we allow ourselves to hold the perspective of both - and beyond.